Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Stupid Phone
I own a smart phone. Except not. It actually doesn't do most things that I would like for it to do, and frequently acts stupid. The most maddening thing of all is that it insists upon sending messages to more than one person as a MMS message that when replied to by any member of the group sends that response to EVERYONE. And now I feel like the ass for sending it that way, even though it would take a million years to send the entire team a note that the game is cancelled. But I just know that all of the parents are ready to chop me up into little pieces because they have gotten a half dozen 'thank you' responses. I am considering asking for witness protection.
Monday, April 29, 2013
Your Kid Is No Angel
Recently I have noticed a new phenomenon where parents defend their kids to the bitter end, even if that guy is a complete a-hole. Say the school calls and says that little Johnny poked somebody in the eye with his pencil. Instead of little Johnny getting the a$$ whipping he deserves, the parents spend every waking moment blaming the other kid for looking at him funny, the teacher for letting him have a pencil, the school for having teachers that would allow such craziness, and....well probably we could trace it all the way back to the hospital for not testing his hearing properly when he was born. Does it ever occur to these people that their kid just might be an a-hole??? I mean, I go through life expecting that there will be some percentage of people that my kids just won't get along with. I feel like that is normal. Different personalities clash. But if my kid is screwing around, bet your bottom dollar that he is going to be held accountable for his own actions.
Is there ever some point where it is appropriate to tell these parents that not only is there kid an inconsiderate brat, and that you're sure you know where they are getting it??? Apple, tree maybe?? Probably not, but I am going to give it a whirl. I will post the results, ahaha!
Is there ever some point where it is appropriate to tell these parents that not only is there kid an inconsiderate brat, and that you're sure you know where they are getting it??? Apple, tree maybe?? Probably not, but I am going to give it a whirl. I will post the results, ahaha!
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Technology Dependence
Our email at work is not functioning properly. I. CAN. NOT. HANDLE. IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so ready to jump. From a very tall building. Well, maybe not. I am ready to drop my computer off of a very tall building! I NEED my emails to come into my Outlook and be friends with all of my other emails. Immediately after sent. Not 3 hours later. And yes, I can sort of check them on-line, but it is not the same. [Insert temper tantrum]
It is a shame that this is what I have become. I know that I should be able to function and be productive, yet I find myself pushing that damn send/receive button repeatedly. Then I mope when it doesn't work or celebrate when it does. Please let this day end soon.
To top it off, I called tech support. That statement there should be enough. The first time they told me they know there is an outage and they are working on it, but have no estimated time that it will be working. Then I realized that I wasn't getting all of the emails on-line, so I called back. The guy actually asked me if he could log in to my computer remotely to make sure I was refreshing correctly. Are you serious right now??? No!!!! I understand how that green thing works. I am not a complete fricken idiot!!! And then later it occurred to me that there must be people that stupid if he has to ask that. What is happening in this world?
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Sounds like...... well, no.
I was SUPPOSED to be on an awesome field trip today. Due to the bombings yesterday, the school board cancelled all field trips out of our county. Now, some would say that is a safety first kind of attitude. And I agree....if we lived anywhere near there.
The bombings were in Boston, Massachusetts. We were going to Baltimore, Maryland. So far the only thing I have been able to link is that they are both B cities in M states. Not the same B city or M state though.
Why are we teaching our children that when something bad happens we need to hide under our beds? We are supposed to teach our kids to be scaredy cat nancies now??? Oh no. Not me. We are not going to stop living because there are bad people that do bad things, because guess what folks....we would never leave our house!!!!!!!!!!
Monday, April 15, 2013
Absentee Blogger
Helloooooooo!!!!
Man, I have been MIA for too long! There have been so many things going on in the last few months, that I didn't really feel it appropriate to discuss here. My emotions have been running too high, and I tend to sort of explode in those times. So, I have taken a LOT of time to try to refocus my thoughts. I have read wisdom from others. I have talked to people. I have PRAYED. For the most part I think I have managed to maintain my sanity, even if I do have an enormous amount of anger that I am sure will never be worked out. Which brings me to my next thought.....
How in the world am I supposed to move on with any sort of regular relationship with someone who has wronged me and my family? None of the wrongs have been addressed, the person has not taken any responsibility what-so-ever for their actions, there has not (and probably never will be) any apology or any attempt to make it right. To top that off, this person tried to put guilt on us for doing the right thing!!! I am the guy that says screw you pal and writes you off. But seeing as it's not my place to do that this time, I am left with a ton of confusion. Do I even have any right to demand any sort of closure? Or do we all just go with the flow here? For now, I have one word: stupid.
So now we are setting back into regular routines, just in time for schedules to get crazy with baseball. AND my husband gets to go back to day shift, so I might actually get to see him some! I am super excited about that! It's been really tough not having him in the evening. Not really that I can't handle the daily grind by myself, but I miss him terribly. I do wish we could squeeze a get-away in soon, but I don't think our schedule is going to allow that. We have too many things that we have had to push to the side recently anyway, so we need to get back to the projects we should have been working on.
I get to chaperone my oldest's son's class field trip tomorrow to a science center! I am super excited! He has really been into science lately, and I think we are going to have a lot of fun. Hopefully I survive. His class is all boys, so it should be interesting =)
Man, I have been MIA for too long! There have been so many things going on in the last few months, that I didn't really feel it appropriate to discuss here. My emotions have been running too high, and I tend to sort of explode in those times. So, I have taken a LOT of time to try to refocus my thoughts. I have read wisdom from others. I have talked to people. I have PRAYED. For the most part I think I have managed to maintain my sanity, even if I do have an enormous amount of anger that I am sure will never be worked out. Which brings me to my next thought.....
How in the world am I supposed to move on with any sort of regular relationship with someone who has wronged me and my family? None of the wrongs have been addressed, the person has not taken any responsibility what-so-ever for their actions, there has not (and probably never will be) any apology or any attempt to make it right. To top that off, this person tried to put guilt on us for doing the right thing!!! I am the guy that says screw you pal and writes you off. But seeing as it's not my place to do that this time, I am left with a ton of confusion. Do I even have any right to demand any sort of closure? Or do we all just go with the flow here? For now, I have one word: stupid.
So now we are setting back into regular routines, just in time for schedules to get crazy with baseball. AND my husband gets to go back to day shift, so I might actually get to see him some! I am super excited about that! It's been really tough not having him in the evening. Not really that I can't handle the daily grind by myself, but I miss him terribly. I do wish we could squeeze a get-away in soon, but I don't think our schedule is going to allow that. We have too many things that we have had to push to the side recently anyway, so we need to get back to the projects we should have been working on.
I get to chaperone my oldest's son's class field trip tomorrow to a science center! I am super excited! He has really been into science lately, and I think we are going to have a lot of fun. Hopefully I survive. His class is all boys, so it should be interesting =)
Monday, February 18, 2013
Things That Are Beyond My Control
I know it has been a long time since I last posted. Mostly that has been because of a terrible, crazy family situation that I wasn't sure it was appropriate to be discussing. But since this is my blog, where I come to sort myself out, and I don't plan on using names, then I am going to give it a whirl.
We have a family member that is struggling with addiction. This family member has a 5 month old daughter, that has been in my husband's and my care since early January. (As a side note, sleep deprivation may also have influenced the lack of posting. Maybe.) Our whole family has done everything we can all think of to help this person.
Yes, I am aware that using "they" is not grammatically correct, but for the sake of anonymity this person will now be known as "they."
It is becoming apparent that even though they asked for help, they are not ready to receive it. They left the baby in our care to go to rehab. The insurance approved 14 days, which is way more than the normal insurance approves apparently. I feel like that is not enough time to learn the tools to overcome addiction, but it's not my show to run. When they were released, they came to our house to stay, so they could be with the baby and continue in an out-patient program. They don't have a vehicle or a job, so we thought it was fairly safe. Apparently though, when they got out of rehab, they went straight to the liquor store. Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go straight there. WHO DOES THAT???????????????????? I might still be a little angry about that. So, they brought some with them. Once that supply was gone, they went through my house until they found where I had hidden the alcohol we had. Of course, all of this was unbeknownst to us. We thought the drowsiness was due to side effects of medications. But no. For days, we left the baby in their care, and they were drinking heavily the whole time. Once that was discovered they went to stay with a different family member, and the baby stayed with us. But they have been unable to stay clean, so now the family has been left with no choice but to help them get into a shelter. There have been several emergency room visits, and even a near death experience. Even that wasn't enough of an eye opener to get them to stop. They are supposed to be going into a 28 day program as soon as there is an opening and then possibly long term care, but nothing seems certain right now.
I am really struggling with having no control over anything. My instincts want me to take control of the situation and force some action, some help, some gratitude, some honesty, some accountability. I feel like a terrible person for having to step away from this person, even though I know that I am only trying to protect my children, and theirs. We have to protect those that can't protect themselves. This person is a grown up and supposedly should be able to make their own decisions. Truly, I get that. That does not make it easier. Not a teeny tiny little bit.
Yesterday I went to pick them up so they could see the baby for the day, but when I got there they were drunk. I had to leave them there. In the cold. With no place to go. I have never felt so terrible or miserable in my entire life. I felt shattered; like I was turning my back on my family. There wasn't another choice. The baby was in the back seat, crying. My children were home. They were told that they could only come if they were sober. This is a choice they made. And still I feel terrible.
We have a family member that is struggling with addiction. This family member has a 5 month old daughter, that has been in my husband's and my care since early January. (As a side note, sleep deprivation may also have influenced the lack of posting. Maybe.) Our whole family has done everything we can all think of to help this person.
Yes, I am aware that using "they" is not grammatically correct, but for the sake of anonymity this person will now be known as "they."
It is becoming apparent that even though they asked for help, they are not ready to receive it. They left the baby in our care to go to rehab. The insurance approved 14 days, which is way more than the normal insurance approves apparently. I feel like that is not enough time to learn the tools to overcome addiction, but it's not my show to run. When they were released, they came to our house to stay, so they could be with the baby and continue in an out-patient program. They don't have a vehicle or a job, so we thought it was fairly safe. Apparently though, when they got out of rehab, they went straight to the liquor store. Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go straight there. WHO DOES THAT???????????????????? I might still be a little angry about that. So, they brought some with them. Once that supply was gone, they went through my house until they found where I had hidden the alcohol we had. Of course, all of this was unbeknownst to us. We thought the drowsiness was due to side effects of medications. But no. For days, we left the baby in their care, and they were drinking heavily the whole time. Once that was discovered they went to stay with a different family member, and the baby stayed with us. But they have been unable to stay clean, so now the family has been left with no choice but to help them get into a shelter. There have been several emergency room visits, and even a near death experience. Even that wasn't enough of an eye opener to get them to stop. They are supposed to be going into a 28 day program as soon as there is an opening and then possibly long term care, but nothing seems certain right now.
I am really struggling with having no control over anything. My instincts want me to take control of the situation and force some action, some help, some gratitude, some honesty, some accountability. I feel like a terrible person for having to step away from this person, even though I know that I am only trying to protect my children, and theirs. We have to protect those that can't protect themselves. This person is a grown up and supposedly should be able to make their own decisions. Truly, I get that. That does not make it easier. Not a teeny tiny little bit.
Yesterday I went to pick them up so they could see the baby for the day, but when I got there they were drunk. I had to leave them there. In the cold. With no place to go. I have never felt so terrible or miserable in my entire life. I felt shattered; like I was turning my back on my family. There wasn't another choice. The baby was in the back seat, crying. My children were home. They were told that they could only come if they were sober. This is a choice they made. And still I feel terrible.
Monday, December 10, 2012
Behind the times...
Holy wow, it's been a long time since I posted. I think that's because I have been so busy and my life has been full of nonsense. Hmmmm, how about a summary:
1. Football is finally over!!!! Don't worry, we have found plenty of ways to occupy that free time.
2. Some lady crashed into my car while I was trying to leave the pharmacy with my antibiotics because I was sick. 2 days before Thanksgiving. It was awesome. I can pretty much guarantee that after taking almost 2 weeks to accept liability, the guy handling the claim through her insurance company does not wish to speak to me EVER again!
3. Thanks to #2 (hahaha) I am having to attend 3 chiropractor sessions per week to get my neck back to not freaking out.
4. My family really pulled together to help make Thanksgiving yummy, delicious, and a good time.
5. My oldest son especially deserves an award! He was so wonderful! Gave his little brother a bath for me, and while he was playing in the bath he cleaned the rest of the bathroom! He is growing up so fast!
6. The car is mostly fixed. There are some paint issues that the shop assures me they can fix quickly when I come by to bring the check for the deductible that the insurance company sent to me "by accident."
7. The tenant issue.....AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! They decided they were going to tell us off every time they spoke to us. My husband handled all of the court proceedings and got a judgement to be able to evict them forcefully. I am so thankful he handled that because, quite frankly, I try to avoid the legal system. I can never break the law. Traffic court totally stresses me out. Anyway, my husband agreed that if they would just go, we wouldn't go after them for the back rent. Apparently they took that as a reason to celebrate and party it up, because at 5am this Saturday morning I was wakened by a terrible smell, and discovered that they were smoking weed down there, which came through the vent system and filled my entire house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No, not joking. These a$$holes have not paid rent, but can buy drugs??!!??!!?!?!?!?! LIVID. So we went down and banged on the door, and truly, she started telling us off again! WTH? How is this possible??? We are kicking them out at Christmas and to give them a break. Ummm, we have been paying for you to live for free. And you have been nothing but jerk faces and now you're doing drugs in my HOUSE???????? After totally losing her marbles she said "you know what? We're leaving tonight!" Ha! My wish come true! Not only are they leaving, but they threw themselves out! Yippeeeeeeee! I would celebrate, but truly I am still extremely sleep deprived, and I feel like crap.
8. Life still goes on......even if you haven't had any sleep. So yeah, we still packed 30lbs of fun into a 5lb weekend. Mall, church, play practice, Chuck E Cheese, shopping, showing the apartment, and the list goes on and on.....
9. Christmas. Now this is my very favorite time of the year!!!!! The decorations, the cookies, the food, the celebrating, the gathering with family, and most of all - the wonder and excitement of my children!!! Each thing seems magical, and every year it's new because they are each experiencing things at a different level. I love everything about it! So while all of the other craziness in my life is happening, I try to pause each day and give thanks to God for all of my blessings and for his gift to us all; his son Jesus.
1. Football is finally over!!!! Don't worry, we have found plenty of ways to occupy that free time.
2. Some lady crashed into my car while I was trying to leave the pharmacy with my antibiotics because I was sick. 2 days before Thanksgiving. It was awesome. I can pretty much guarantee that after taking almost 2 weeks to accept liability, the guy handling the claim through her insurance company does not wish to speak to me EVER again!
3. Thanks to #2 (hahaha) I am having to attend 3 chiropractor sessions per week to get my neck back to not freaking out.
4. My family really pulled together to help make Thanksgiving yummy, delicious, and a good time.
5. My oldest son especially deserves an award! He was so wonderful! Gave his little brother a bath for me, and while he was playing in the bath he cleaned the rest of the bathroom! He is growing up so fast!
6. The car is mostly fixed. There are some paint issues that the shop assures me they can fix quickly when I come by to bring the check for the deductible that the insurance company sent to me "by accident."
7. The tenant issue.....AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! They decided they were going to tell us off every time they spoke to us. My husband handled all of the court proceedings and got a judgement to be able to evict them forcefully. I am so thankful he handled that because, quite frankly, I try to avoid the legal system. I can never break the law. Traffic court totally stresses me out. Anyway, my husband agreed that if they would just go, we wouldn't go after them for the back rent. Apparently they took that as a reason to celebrate and party it up, because at 5am this Saturday morning I was wakened by a terrible smell, and discovered that they were smoking weed down there, which came through the vent system and filled my entire house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No, not joking. These a$$holes have not paid rent, but can buy drugs??!!??!!?!?!?!?! LIVID. So we went down and banged on the door, and truly, she started telling us off again! WTH? How is this possible??? We are kicking them out at Christmas and to give them a break. Ummm, we have been paying for you to live for free. And you have been nothing but jerk faces and now you're doing drugs in my HOUSE???????? After totally losing her marbles she said "you know what? We're leaving tonight!" Ha! My wish come true! Not only are they leaving, but they threw themselves out! Yippeeeeeeee! I would celebrate, but truly I am still extremely sleep deprived, and I feel like crap.
8. Life still goes on......even if you haven't had any sleep. So yeah, we still packed 30lbs of fun into a 5lb weekend. Mall, church, play practice, Chuck E Cheese, shopping, showing the apartment, and the list goes on and on.....
9. Christmas. Now this is my very favorite time of the year!!!!! The decorations, the cookies, the food, the celebrating, the gathering with family, and most of all - the wonder and excitement of my children!!! Each thing seems magical, and every year it's new because they are each experiencing things at a different level. I love everything about it! So while all of the other craziness in my life is happening, I try to pause each day and give thanks to God for all of my blessings and for his gift to us all; his son Jesus.
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